Want to ask for money as a wedding gift, but worried about what people will think?
Many couples feel this way and there are lots of guides out there that tell you either, how to or not to! But we found some survey results on money saving expert that analyses attitudes to this type of request and we thought it would be helpful to share them with you, so you can get a real perspective on what your guests may think.
The survey shows that across all the groups and both sexes that 50% of respondents had a positive attitude towards couples asking for money as a gift. Approximately 20-30% of each age group surveyed felt relieved when the bride and groom asked for money instead of gifts. This often reduces the pressure for guests to select a gift. We expected the results to show older generations were less likely to approve of this request, however the results were pretty even across the board with a slight trend towards older generations feeling more comfortable if any with giving the gift of money. Whilst in Britain it has been frowned upon to ask for money traditionally, this survey clearly shows that views are split almost 50/50 on the topic.
In many countries couples receive cash gifts as part of their traditions. So perhaps its time for us to let go a little on some of our traditions and embrace others?
In Austira for example, it is traditional for the bride and groom to receive gifts of money. Often the money is folded (almost like orgami) into some kind of 3d design. such as a flower. The money is presented to the bride and groom and in return guests are offered a drink of wine.
If you are going to ask for money for your wedding there are a few things you should consider doing:
- State what the money will be used for, e.g the honeymoon or towards a new kitchen etc… Guests are more likely to feel more comfortable with giving money as a gift if they know what it will be used for.
- You could register for experiences instead of money, some registries include these now such as trulyexperiences.com
- You can use a gift registry that guests can buy vouchers from e.g Kuoni gift registry or John Lewis for example.
- Consider using poetry to help you state your preference – Confetti.com have a collection of poems on their website that can help you do this.
- Make it clear that guests have an option of not giving money and that their presence at you wedding is enough. Many of the poems you can find on this topic tend to address this point.
So what do you think? Would you ask for money or financial contributions as a wedding gift? Let us know in our poll and the comments field below.